Diabetes Blog Week: The Blame Game.

Diabetes Blog Week is just like it sounds… diabetes bloggers all over the world, blogging on daily topics for an entire week. Or, in this year’s case, for five days. To find out all about Diabetes Blog Week and to sign up, CLICK HERE.

This is my 6th year participating in Diabetes Blog Week. The week is rolling along pretty fast! Today: Step up everyone, and get ready for The Blame Game.

Having diabetes often makes a visit to the doctor a dreaded experience, as there is invariably bad news of one kind or another.  And sometimes the way the doctor talks to you can leave you feeling like you’re at fault.  Or maybe you have a fantastic healthcare team, but have experienced blame and judgement from someone else in your life – friend, loved one, complete stranger.  Think about a particularly bad instance, how that person talked to you, the words they used and the conversation you had.  Now, the game part.  Let’s turn this around.  If you could turn that person into a puppet, what would you have them say that would leave you feeling empowered and good about yourself?   Let’s help teach people how to support us, rather than blame us!  (Thank you, Brian, for inspiring this topic.)

First of all… In case you haven’t read my post from last week, I’ll let you click on this link to find out how terrific my endocrinologist is.

I’ve got a fantastic endo. But the two that I had worked with prior to this one definitely fall into the judgement and authoritarian figure categories. One was female, one was male. Both were awful.

I remember one of my previous endos, who would make me wait in the waiting room for an hour and a half, then have me spend 20 minutes with medical students who knew next to nothing about diabetes. After that, I would get about two minutes with her, just enough time to get new prescriptions written. When that happens, there is no time for deep conversations or questions and answers. How can you learn anything about your patients this way? I would always walk away from those appointments feeling like I didn’t matter, and my A1c results reflected that.

Another endocrinologist got red faced when I questioned why he doubled the dosage of my high blood pressure medication without doing a check of, you know, my blood pressure. I told him my primary doctor thought doubling my dosage was dangerous, because I had been in a good range up to that point on the dosage I was at. He looked me in the eye and said, “I am the doctor. Your job is to do what I tell you to do!”. Yeah, no.

I think I would actually enjoy turning those two into puppets, and completely changing their demeanor toward their other patients.

I would love to turn the grumpy my-way-or-the-highway doctor into Big Bird from Sesame Street (Big Bird is sort of a puppet, right?). Regardless of my questions, Dr. Big Bird could help calm me down and be understanding when I’m not so sure about my next steps. Just what we need sometimes.

It would be really cool if I could turn my overscheduled endo into Bert, of Bert and Ernie fame. Bert is always organized, and he prefers to know about who he interacts with, rather than just letting Ernie handle everything. A time and a place for everything for Bert. The more time he makes for others, the happier the story ends.

Truthfully, I don’t usually bandy words about with doctors who don’t get it. My time is too valuable. In the case of those other two endocrinologists, I let my feet do the talking. But…

Wouldn’t it be great if we could just change bad care behavior by turning a doctor into a beloved puppet?

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  • Kelley  On May 17, 2017 at 9:35 am

    Love the Sesame Street references haha. I would not do well with the My way or the highway doc, eek. Glad you have a good endo now!

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  • Rick Phillips  On May 17, 2017 at 10:23 pm

    I don’t know Stephen, I had a Dr. Bert. he was always asking me about RA. I think he wanted to be a rheumatologist. That was when I learned the only worst paid doctor than a Rheumatologist is an endocrinologist. I think he was trying to move up.

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  • Blood Sugar Trampoline  On May 28, 2017 at 10:55 am

    Love it! Love it so, so much!!! 😄



  • […] Before you assume that only people with type 2 experience this kind of condescending treatment from their doctors, take a look at what my friend Steven has to say about “The Blame Game.” […]


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